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Do you see yourself as a misfit? Are you cool with the fact that everyone gives you a funny look. Are you ok that nobody ever gives you a second look?

We naturally want everyone to like us. They don’t need to be in awe of us, but we do like to be accepted as part of the group. It is not being self-serving. It is just life.

We want to be liked.

My Story

I’ve always thought I was liked by everyone. I prided myself in my ability to share and befriend people from various demographics. It was just a gift that I had. I could ask the right questions and give a caring smile. I never thought twice that people might not like me.

Until I found out otherwise

I was devastated. Why doesn’t this person like me? I’ve always been friendly with the guy. We always told jokes to each other. I could never get an honest explanation from anyone. I wanted to know why. I just annoyed him.

Certain people just don’t like us.

Admit it, you don’t like certain people.

Acceptance Of Personal Preference

After awhile, I realized it wasn’t that big of a deal the guy didn’t like me. We all have things that bother someone else and we are also bothered by other’s personalities. I can’t stand people who are loud and obnoxious. They annoy the mess out of me. Many One of my ex-girlfriends dumped me for a guy who I thought was an idiot.

In every other area of our lives, we accept that there is personal preferences. You won’t find a movie that appeals to everyone. You will always find someone who hates the movie. Why do we think that we are the exceptions? In an ideal world, everyone would at least accept us. But that is not life.

Cherish Those Who accept you

The secret to moving forward in life is to move past the need for complete acceptance. We all need some form of acceptance from our peers, but not everyone.  Once you find the few people in this world who do accept you as you are, don’t worry about gaining acceptance from everyone else. 

After a few years, I started to realize that this one guy wasn’t the only person who didn’t like me. There were others who were nice in front of me, but could only put up with me for a limited amount of time. I made a decision to accept their inability to like me. I would keep them as acquiantances, but focused my attention on other responsibilities.

 I chose to build the relationships I had with those who do think I bring them joy in their lives.

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