Are you afraid of these three little words?
It is one of the shortest sentences in the English language, but it is one of the most difficult to let out of your mouth. We really hate saying it. Some people might go throughout their entire lives without uttering it to anyone. Then again, these people probably don’t have many close friends. Beyond wanting to hear it, we all need to hear and say this one powerful sentence.
I am sorry.
It is funny to watch the lengths that we go in order to not say “im sorry”. We buy flowers or we cook an extra special dinner. We might even give a 40 minute foot massage, but it is so hard to say im sorry.
It is the humility that is required when we give an apology. It breaks our spirit and it hurts our pride. We have to admit out loud that we were wrong.
I hate being wrong. In my world, I am never wrong. I am always right in my present moment. But when I apologize, I am in my present moment publicly admitting that I was wrong..
and it is completely out there
For
everyone
to
hear.
The famous cliche tells us that action speaks louder than words, and I agree. generally. But when it comes to broken relationships and torn friendships, there is nothing more powerful than one sentence. When it is someone that you deeply care about locking the door and forever removing you from their lives… They want to hear one small sentence and nothing else.
I am sorry .
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Hello! My name is Stephen Miracle. I am the founder of altNoise. I have worked in ministry for the last decade. Please enjoy and freely share these articles created with love.
This is true. Your words are always a great inspiration to me in my life.
What world do you live in? If you live with a woman, that’s all you say. You must be a a female blogger.
@cribcat
I’m no woman. I just know from experience that the only thing that can start to fix a broken relationship is to begin with an honest apology.
Now, I’m not saying that all you have to do is utter the words, “I am sorry” and everything will be good again…
It is quite the opposite really. “I am sorry” only begins the process of healing. But an apology acts in the same way a cut can only begin to heal through pain and scarring.
In other words, a relationship doesn’t begin to heal by giving excuses and justifications. It only begins by owning up to mistakes. verbally.
Just reviewing the contents of the reply and owning your stuff is great…….. If it’s mutual. It boils down to communication, but if it’s one way then what? I’ve said “I’m sorry” too many times there’s a point at which you need to cut the dominator off and move on.
“I am sorry!” simple but very powerful indeed. Thanks for the timely reminder to some of us.